Saturday, April 3, 2010

Deal Breakers


I have a friend who went on an online date with a guy who regularly attends Renaissance Faires. Deal Breaker?
What about the Comic Book collector? Deal Breaker?
Been to jail? Deal Breaker?
How many ex wives does one need before …yep. Deal Breaker?
I used to think I wasn't so judgmental. After all, I swore I'd never date actors, and the last guy I dated…was… an actor! (Okay, I know different from someone who attends Renaissance Faires…or is it?)
I used to think I was so open…give everyone a chance. But I have to admit, if I guy told me he has costumes, practices sword fighting on weekends, and then regularly attends Renaissance Faires…well…that's taking a hobby a bit too far.
I actually had a crush on a comic book/toy collector once. In his apartment he kept perfectly, original packaged, collection of action figures. I was so enthralled that on our dates, we'd drive 45 minutes away to various toy stores because he'd learn certain stores were getting some figures in limited numbers and he just had to have one. My friends were shocked? What did I see in him? How long was I going to understand his weird obsession? I did end up dumping the guy after about 5 gas fill ups from various trips to Reseda on such quests. His hobby became a deal breaker.
But really what constitutes a deal breaker? We are all different? Should we be so judgmental? After all, I'm hardly perfect. I guess for me it's when weird hobbies turn into obsession and its all your date can talk about. They become, shall we say, odd and boring?
"Desert rats!... Guys with motor cross type toys who hang in the desert, drink beer and talk about lame jumps they caught 'air' on all weekend" states my sister. Apparently she had been dragged on one too many weekends with a guy who was a desert rat. Deal Breaker.
"Ever met a train collector?" asked another friend. She met this guy who had an entire basement with his collectable trains. (Personally, I'd draw the line if he wore a conductor hat and pumped his arm going "choo choo.")
I usually tell guys I just want someone who is into me. And well, if they are putting too much time into their hobby, that's less time into me…and well, that is my ultimate deal breaker. For now, I can "talk" comic book; geeky train collector; videogamer; silent movie; sports obsessed; nature trail cruncher with the best of them. Just remember to also talk to me.
If you have an odd one…please let me know! HC

2 comments:

  1. I have a deal breaker - guys who don't watch any TV - they consider themselves "too intellectual" for us average people who plug in for entertainment throughout the week. I felt myself watching TV on the sly, like porn - not a good thing.

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  2. True true Tree...that would be a deal breaker. To[p Chef is not porn btw.

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